Thursday, October 28, 2010

Mom vent

Quotations....

"If you don't invite God to your wedding, I. Will. Be. Heartbroken."

"You know I love gay people as individuals, I just don't love their lifestyle." (Full disclosure, I'm wearing an HRC bracelet right now.)

"Well that's great [that my newly married nephew hired the mentally disabled-run pastry shop to bake different cakes for his wedding], but I had the idea for multiple wedding cakes first. I mean, where do you think they got the idea?" (My thought: their experience with the pastry shop?!?)

"Your brother said that this was the best wedding he's ever been to. [Pause] But what about my wedding? [Sigh] I guess it's apples and oranges."

"Oh, it's just lovely. But why didn't you get one for me?"

Come on!!!!!

Can I be Pansy?

My great grandma Pansy was an incredibly kind woman. She would ask the birthday of everyone she knew, and sent them all cards every year. After she passed away (over 20 years ago), our family members started getting phone calls from friends and exes they themselves hadn't spoken to in decades asking, "Is your grandmother ok? I get a birthday card from her every year, but I didn't hear from her this year."

For me, it doesn't get much more poignant than that.

My brother broke up with his girlfriend. Everybody thought this was it - they'd get hitched, start poppin out little ones, etc. But instead, it has ended. I am absolutely there for him, and he seems to be doing ok. Thing is, I want to be there for her, too. Rough. Plus, it feels like she needs me in that capacity more than he does.

Weird.

So I'm doing it. I told him, made sure he was ok with it, etc. And of course, he's wonderful and supportive even though it's not the norm.... and I can't help but be inspired by Grandma Pansy.

Love.