Not a Mom

Still trying to be patient, adult, etc. Things aren't going well in the crush department. I've all but written him off as long-term relationship material (for me, compatibility-wise), and I started opening up about how unhappy he seems in general. He's bringing me down. Now I'm getting a little cold shoulder action. Not straight out ignoring, but he's not contacting me today. Which is out of the ordinary for him. Which means something is going on. And I'm worried about how upset he is.

Things:

-I don't want him to feel judged.

-I'm not getting much out of our relationship.

-I deserve someone who makes me feel good. More than good. Alive, smart, ambitious, etc. I feel all those things on my own, but I want to find someone who highlights or enhances my traits that I enjoy. I'm feeling drained.

Now that the initial fun crush stuff has worn off, he's opening up more. And that's revealed two bad things: I don't like some things about him that he seems to find endearing about himself; and most of his chosen conversational topics are about how his life sucks. Not only is that not fun for me, but being around it makes me physically and mentally uncomfortable, as in, get-me-outta-here.

There's totally some maternal quality in me that wants to help pick him up and make him better, but that's not what I'm looking for! And not what I should be doing, especially in a girlfriend role.

B to the OOOOOO.